A Course for Reclaiming Supportive Relationships After Trauma
Are you a trauma survivor that longs to be seen, understood, and supported in relationships?
Is your past constantly making an appearance in your new romantic relationships & friendships?
Do you want to break the damaging cycles of your past trauma and find safety and empowerment in relationships now?
The Blooming Relationships Course is for you.
Struggling to have strong relationships after trauma?
You're not alone.
While we might want to forget our past and leave it behind us, until we address our trauma and start the healing process, our past will continue to haunt us. I know, because I’ve been there.
When I left my abusive relationship, all the messaging I heard was I should just forget about it and move forward, so I did the best I could. What ended up happening, though, was I was left repeating the cycles of codependency, dysfunction, and toxic relationship patterns until I finally addressed the trauma that was lurking beneath every decision I made.
When I finally started to realize that what I had been through was still affecting me, I began the long process of figuring out exactly what trauma is, how it changed my brain, and how I can commit to a truly supportive relationship, which as a concept was confusing and foreign. While this took me years of research and integration, it doesn't have to take you that long.
In the Blooming Relationships course, you will learn everything I know about what it takes to have a safe, supportive relationship after surviving abuse.
Sophie's Course Experience:
"In a world of an overwhelming amount of information, the Blooming Relationship Course is a beautifully organized wealth of knowledge that shines light on all the confusing intricacies of navigating relationships after trauma. Emmy gives relatable examples throughout the course that made me feel validated, seen and has reminded me that I'm not alone or broken. As someone who instinctively jumps to the thought that I'm faulty or broken beyond repair, I gained so so much from the focus on self trust. The course helped me see exactly how and why internal cycles of negative self-talk are there, and then warmly invited me to explore, heal and navigate my relationship with myself and those around me. Emmy has truly created a safe space for reflection and growth with this course and I always look forward to sitting down with a warm cup of coffee, digging into the workbook and completing the modules at my own pace. The prompts provide space to reflect on my experiences while the lectures provide tangible tools and exercises to take small steps towards nurturing safe and fulfilling relationships. Whether you're someone who struggles with trust or someone who struggles with creating boundaries, there is something in this course for you. Insightful, nourishing and empowering! I recommend this course to absolutely everyone- especially anyone who feels alone, stuck or misunderstood. "
-Sophie L.
What's Covered in the Course?
This trauma-informed, self-paced course covers the following topics:
Module 1: How Trauma Impacts The Nervous System
- Blooming After Trauma Healing Framework, my approach to trauma recovery.
- How trauma impacts our body, mind, and spirit.
- How our nervous system is impacted by trauma, and how that impacts our relationships.
Module 2: Healing Trust Issues with Self And Others
- How trauma breaks self-trust, and how to reclaim an inner confidence and trust of self.
- How trauma impacts our ability to trust others, and how to start trusting others who earn it.
Module 3: Developing Strong Communication Skills
- Obstacles to strong communication for trauma survivors.
- How to talk about your feelings, needs, and trauma without shame.
- The 4 tenets of strong communication: consent, vulnerability, respect, and consistency. How to implement these tenets for a supportive, empowered relationship.
Module 4: Creating Healthy Boundaries For Interdependent Relationships
- Enmeshment, anxious attachment, and lack of boundaries.
- Barriers, avoidant attachment, and rigid boundaries.
- Interdependence, boundaries, and balanced relationships.
- Navigating sex and intimacy after trauma.
Module 5: Discerning Between Red Flags In Relationships And Triggers
- How to detect and address red flags in relationships.
- How to navigate and cope with triggers in relationships.
- How to discern between intrusive thoughts and intuition.
Module 6: Healing Techniques for Ongoing Trauma Recovery
- Taking stock of the past, owning your truth, and letting go of shame.
- Radical self-care as a rebellion against trauma.
- BONUS: Breaking the Cycle Workshop, Choosing Rest in a Culture of Busy Training
- Envisioning the future and moving forward towards safe relationships, even if you've never experienced one before.
See the full course preview at the bottom of this page!
What is included with your purchase:
- Entire Blooming Relationships course with over 12 hours of video lessons to watch on demand.
- A workbook for each module of the course, including powerful exercises and journal prompts.
- NEW SPRING '23: 4 Live Support and Connection Calls with Emmy + fellow students (used to be 2).
- 3 months of free access to Blooming Together Community - my private membership for trauma survivors
- BONUS content: Breaking the Cycle Workshop, Choosing Rest in a Culture of Busy presentation, and the Blooming Daily journal guide.
- Lifetime access to all materials, including any future additions or updates. You're in!
When does it start?
You will receive access to the course immediately upon enrolling. This can be done at your own pace, in private, for optimal safety and regulation.
Live calls are optional and will take place once per month starting in May 2023. They will be recorded and available for replay.
All materials can be accessed on a smartphone, computer, or tablet.
Enrollment closes on May 3rd, 2023.
How much is it?
The total cost of this course is $555 USD, or 3 monthly payments of $190, or 6 monthly payments of $95.
Sliding scale scholarships are available here: https://forms.gle/4gWd451XyhXZKJWb9
About Emmy
I'm a certified Trauma-Informed Coach, NARM practitioner, educator, and writer.
After surviving an abusive relationship that nearly destroyed me, all I wanted was to be free of the past. Instead of mourning what I had gone through and looking at myself with compassion, I tried to escape my past by any means possible. I lived in shame and thought healing meant "getting over" my past, which I was incapable of.
Through research and training on how trauma impacts the brain and body, I've realized that there is nothing inherently wrong with me or other survivors for being unable to "let go" or forget their past. But knowledge wasn't everything. I also had to learn how to bring compassion to myself, make peace with my emotions, and construct a basis of safety from which I can now advocate for my needs and be present in relationships without sacrificing myself. I had to acknowledge that who I am is okay, even with a traumatic past.
I've found a way to accept where I've been, see myself as a powerful survivor, and create relationships based in mutual respect, freedom, and joy without bypassing my pain. Now I help others do the same.
I have now had the pleasure of working with over 300 Blooming Relationships course students in the past two years, and feel incredibly grateful for this opportunity to have an impact on other trauma survivors' healing and recovery.
Course Student Testimonials
"As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, I was incredibly nervous to enter into another romantic relationship. At one point, I thought I would never trust another human again... I couldn't even trust myself. BRC gave me a framework to apply to my relationships that made me feel safe. It helped me trust myself first, then learn to trust others when they prove that they are trustworthy. BRC helped me take back my power! If you've been through trauma and are struggling with relationships, or just want to learn how to form a deeper connection with loved ones, TAKE THIS COURSE! Emmy is incredible. You won't be disappointed! ”
-Alexis F.
"Emmy, this course changed my relationships forever. All of them. My friendships, my romantic relationships, even relationships with families. I didn't realize how touched all my relationships were by trauma and hardship. I had no idea all the ways I was judging myself for my own involuntary emotional reactions. I didn't know how much I needed this course until I was in it. I feel healthier and kinder and freer because of your kind and insightful and patient teaching and all I can say is, thank you."
-Anonymous Course Student
"The Blooming Relationships course helped me to recognize the many ways trauma has impacted and shaped my way of thinking, and my behaviours in relationships. It provided me with the language to finally verbalize the thoughts and feelings I had been experiencing. Most importantly, the course gave me the tools to address and respond to these issues and emotions. As well as a community of support. I really enjoyed learning about attachment styles and understanding how I relate to others. The polyvagal theory was another favourite aspect of mine. So interesting and applicable to everyday life. Partnered with attachment styles, I really got a better understanding of myself. I also enjoyed the community aspect and group calls. So nice and supportive hearing from others who have similar experiences."
-Laura F.
“Emmy has been an absolute rock for my trauma recovery. She taught me how to find compassion for myself rather than be stuck in the constant repeating cycle of shame. Her framework has been the foundation of my healing and trauma recovery. The internal and external have both dramatically shifted. I feel excited for life again. I am able to sooth myself when triggers arise. And most importantly, the relationship with myself has become peaceful.
Forever grateful for the work we have done together."
-Coco
"Learning more about the polyvagal theory and factual evidence of trauma was life-changing. Emmy does this beautifully! Finally having the words for certain experiences I didn't have the words for has given me so much more clarity and ease in my healing process. My self-compassion has increased so much since I began the course! I owe part of that to Emmy and your shame-free approach. The self-talk I'm having these days is so much healthier and honest!"
-Lorraine G.
"[During the Blooming Relationships Course,] I re-wrote some shame stories that had been holding me back for years. In general, reducing the hold that shame had on me was the biggest impact. I had read and followed different sources of trauma education and was able to take what I knew on an intellectual level and actually "download" it and feel that it was true. It was so refreshing to have a nonjudgmental approach when the reigning (although changing) narrative is just that you are only struggling because you are codependent (a label that feels like a static, unchangeable character trait). The perspective around shame was similarly groundbreaking for me. It made me realize how insidious it is. I was also grateful that you included societal sources of trauma IE racism etc bc the wellness industry can be so gaslighty and spiritual bypassy."
-Justine B.
"The Blooming Relationships Course allowed me to finally understand that the symptoms I kept showing were as a consequence of my trauma experience, that I wasn't 'broken' but on the contrary it was just my body doing its best to survive. It felt good knowing I wasn't alone. [I liked] the way it was structured, it was easy to follow and complete."
-Liz E
"This course has helped me in that I am become more open to feeling my emotions. I no longer judge myself for feeling them. I am more aware of myself when I don't express myself well so now I'm more likely to catch myself and elaborate on what I am trying to say. My main takeaways were allowing myself to feel and to implement boundaries."
-Anonymous Course Student
“Emmy, Thank you so much for this course. I think you were sent to all of us for a reason to help us learn, grow and heal from whatever trauma we went/are going through. I will never forget this program and so appreciative for you and your tools to navigate through this crazy life. I have been way more mindful with my words/actions/not living in the past because of your course. Thank you for being vulnerable with us and listening without judgement.”
-Jess P
“I love your course! It’s so helpful!! I’m still listening! And will need to listen to it a lot of times!! I love the worksheets and I love to look at the trauma not as something to overcome but a lifetime journey to heal…thank you!! Glad I found you and that you were so caring and willing to help!!!”
– Elle E.
"I saw a post on Instagram about self-trust vs trusting others that really stood out to me, I started following Emmy then joined the course. I wanted to explore how my recently discovered trauma from my past might be affecting my romantic relationships. I learned to define a lot of things for myself that were fuzzy before. Like clearing up I have a mixed attachment style with multiple roots for why. Also understanding that my trust issues with others is more pronounced than I had realized. And learning better to integrate parts of myself and allow multiple feelings to exist around one event."
-Lisa K.
Curriculum Sneak Peak!
- Lesson 1: Obstacles to Communication (51:58)
- Lesson 2: Talking About Trauma, Part 1: Prepare (11:25)
- Lesson 2: Talking About Trauma, Part 2: Set Expectations (7:35)
- Lesson 2: Talking About Trauma, Part 3: Safety (7:48)
- Lesson 2: Talking About Trauma, Part 4: Small Risks (5:41)
- Lesson 2: Talking About Trauma, Part 5: Shame-free (8:54)
- Lesson 2: Talking About Trauma, Part 6: Boundaries (19:43)
- Lesson 2: Talking About Trauma, Part 7: Support (6:24)
- Lesson 3: 4 tenets of Strong Communication Part 1: Consent (14:10)
- Lesson 3: 4 tenets of Strong Communication Part 2: Vulnerability (13:42)
- Lesson 3: 4 tenets of Strong Communication Part 3: Respect (15:07)
- Lesson 3: 4 tenets of Strong Communication Part 4: Consistency (11:17)
- BONUS: Word Map Exercise (9:30)
- WORKBOOK
- BONUS: Authenticity and Agency in Communication (32:45)
- Lesson 1: Barriers (22:08)
- Lesson 1: Barriers, Part 2: Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style (12:55)
- Lesson 1: Barriers, Part 3: Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style (15:56)
- Lesson 2: Enmeshment (23:48)
- Lesson 2: Enmeshment, Part 2: Anxious Attachment Style (16:17)
- Lesson 3: Boundaries (41:46)
- Lesson 3: Boundaries, Part 2: Secure Attachment Style (15:42)
- Lesson 4: Sex and Intimacy (36:33)
- BONUS: Changes in Attachment Exercise (15:25)
- WORKBOOK
- BONUS: Attachment Styles as Strategies (36:59)
Disclaimer: Coaching Isn't Therapy or Health Care
Disclaimer: This course is intended as an educational resource and coaching service. Life Coaching is a service that provides personal coaching to individuals and/or groups, but it is in no way to be construed or substituted as psychological counseling, or any other type of therapy, or medical advice. A Life Coach is unable to diagnose any medical conditions; if this is a concern, I advise you to seek help from a Medical Professional, such as a licensed psychologist, psychiatrist, or therapist. Results are not guaranteed and any actions you take, and the consequences thereof, whether real or imagined, are entirely your own. I accept no liability from anything that should arise from the use of the information on this site or the engagement of my services.